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Published on October 25th, 2014 | by Healthy Gay Lifestyles


From Depression to Expression

by Jamie Smith, CPC, Law of Attraction Facilitator

“We are literally hard wired for connection,” Brene Brown

As a Life Coach and a very outgoing person (most of the time) people generally feel comfortable around me and share with me what is going on in their lives. I am grateful and honored for that privilege.

From time to time, I hear quite a lot of people in the LGBT community tell me that they feel lonely, depressed and sad. While I’m not a therapist (Depression is a therapy issue not a coaching issue), I can point people in the right direction. According to the Trevor Project, which seeks to prevent suicide among LGBT youth, “In U.S. surveys, lesbian, gay and bi adolescents and adults have two to six times higher rates of reported suicide attempts compared to comparable straight people. Surveys of transgender people consistently report markedly high rates of suicide attempts.”

Because of these statistics and because I’ve helped people to get the help they needed in the past, I feel that I need to write a blog post to at least shed some light and offer some guidance on how to begin healing depression.

What To Do If You Think You Might Be Depressed

“Follow Your Joy. There is a world of difference between searching for happiness and following your joy. Following your joy is about listening to your heart’s desires, noticing what truly inspires you and recognizing your soul’s purpose. A good starting point is to reflect on the question “When am I at my happiest?” People who follow their joy discover a depth of talent and creativity that inspires us all.” Dr. Robert Holden

Depression Symptoms: What To Do If You Think You’re Depressed

If you think you may be dealing with depression then there are a few things you can do. First thing I would recommend would be to seek out a good therapist trained in treating people with depression. Remember that all successful people have a team of support in their lives and that it is actually strong to ask for help. Make sure to ask the therapist before beginning, “What has been your success rate in treating people with depression in the past?”
You can always change therapists if the relationship doesn’t feel right. Ideally you want to leave feeling better than when you came in. :) I changed my therapist three times when I was going through a dark period in my life once.

The second suggestion I have, is to right away ask yourself, “am I just surrounding myself with assholes?” ( I just love that quote).

When I first moved to Vancouver three years ago I was feeling a bit down. Truth be told, I was just hanging out with anyone because I was lonely and as a result, I met people that didn’t always share my values. Once I got clear that I wanted to create a soulful community of like minded peeps, I began to attract them into my life. I am happy to report that I now have the most amazing circle of loving and supportive like minded friends.

I even started my own free LGBT Law of Attraction Meetup group in Vancouver where I’ve met even more like minded people and get to share the love as well as offer tips on how to live your best gay life! Feel free to join us if you are LGBT and live in the Vancouver area.
Part of what I teach is that the Law of Attraction is always working in our lives and it responds to our moods and feelings (vibes) by bringing us more of the same. Happiness is actually our natural state therefore it is important to heal and let go of what is preventing our natural state of bliss and happiness. Say, “Yes” if you are ready to attract more joyful experiences into your life?

The last suggestion I want to offer is something I heard Dr.Robert Holden say once. He said that “DE-PRESSION come froms the words, ‘De’ which means inside, and ‘PRESSION’, which means pressure in french.”

He said that the key to healing depression is expression. You can’t express yourself and be depressed at the same time. Dr, Holden also is featured in a great BBC documentary called, “How to be Happy.” ▶ Robert Holden 8 Week Happiness Documentary part 1 – YouTube

Here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • No one recovers alone. What loving support do I need to put in place this year in order to live my best gay life?
  • What negative thoughts, beliefs and behaviors do I need to let go of in order to feel better about myself?
  • What kind of friends would I like to have in my life?
  • How could I move from depression to expression? How and where could I express myself more this year? To a therapist? Artistically?

I hope you found this blog post helpful and remember like Auntie Oprah always says, “Only surround yourself with people who lift you Higher.”

If you want to connect immediately with people who will lift you Higher, feel free to like my Facebook fanpage.


Jamie Smith is a certified LGBT Empowerment Coach and Certified Law of Attraction Trainer. Jamie is passionate about empowering the LGBT community to create rich, full and delicious lives. Jamie teaches workshops and has quickly earned the reputation as the “how-to-guy” of Law of Attraction.
Jamie runs a free LGBT Law of Attraction group called, “Happy, Healthyand Gay” and is excited about his new live weekly Internet show, Hang Out with Jamie, which allows him to connect with fans of Law of Attraction in an exciting new way. Jamie lives in beautiful Vancouver, B.C.

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